People lie 3 times in every conversation they have. The question is why do we lie? People lie to protect themselves. Others times they lie to hurt someone. However in a family, often when someone tells a lie it is because they don't want to hurt someone they love . The problem with lying to someone we love is that when the lie is discovered it often causes more hurt then the truth ever would.
Often people lie to protect someone they love. In the book, The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-time the father lied to his autistic son about killing a dog and his mother abandoning him. He did this because he believed his son couldn't handle or understand the truth. In the movie The Last Song, the father lied to his children about his illness. He was diagnosed with cancer and feared that his children also wouldn't be able to understand or handle the truth that he is going to die. They didn't lie to them to be cruel. They did it because they loved their children and didn't want them to have the pain they were going through. In both situations, the fathers lied because they were have difficulty facing and dealing with the truth themselves.
Although the fathers lied to protect their children out of love, when the children had found out the truth they were angry with their fathers. In the book, Christopher finds out about his father's lies and becomes angry. He feels hurt and betrayed and runs away from his father. In The Last Song, when the children found out that he kept the secret about him dying, they got angry with him. In both stories instead of making their relationships stronger it causes them to drift apart. Trust is the biggest part of a relationship and when there is a lie it breaks all trust.
It might be very hard to tell your family the truth, but when it comes to having a strong family you need to tell it. The truth is the best policy.
No comments:
Post a Comment